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Post by MrsBear5140 » Sun Oct 15, 2006 1:44 pm

Dearest Pat
I am so sorry to hear about your husband. What a horrible thing for you to be going through! May God bless you dear, and may you feel his loving arms surround you when you most need them.

Please know that you are in my thoughts as well as so many others who have come to know you and love you here in Hardwood.

Big Hugs my friend,


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Post by NanaGram » Sun Oct 15, 2006 2:31 pm

Well, it's official. I've known in my heart that he was gone Thursday morning, though I had a tiny glimmer of hope.

The cat scan was done this morning and he was examined by a neurologist who told me that my instincts were right.

We're waiting for two more family members, then we'll go to the hospital to let them say goodbye. All treatment will be stopped at that time and he will go in his own time.

They keep asking me - do you have friends you can be with at a time like this. Do I ever! Thank you so much for listening, and for just being here for me.

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I am so sorry Pat

Post by rightcom » Sun Oct 15, 2006 2:37 pm

Pat you are like family to me, I really hope things turn around with you, I dont think anything is hopeless no matter what as G-d can heal all no matter what, so you hang in there as my prayers are with you :cry:

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Post by HotPoker4MyEyePlease » Sun Oct 15, 2006 2:43 pm

Im so very sorry for your loss. Take comfort in the fact he will soon be in paradise.

Im here for you sweetheart.

I have an extra room in my house if you like to take a trip east any time :)

Ill take ya for a spin on my hot pink wheels!

Love you honey!


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Post by Moordock » Sun Oct 15, 2006 2:49 pm

Pat I know you did all you could.

You have many friends here who care about you. It's some comfort, if only a little, for the time ahead.


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Post by bazween » Sun Oct 15, 2006 3:45 pm

Words cannot describe your loss and the road is not an easy one ahead but I give you all my love and all my prayers and thoughts and wish to assure you how much you are loved and respected and can only convey, along with many others how much you are being supported spiritually at this time

If ya ever need someone to annoy ya ya know who to call

Love ya lots and my thoughts are with you and your family

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Post by jen4722 » Sun Oct 15, 2006 5:43 pm

Pat I am soo sorry to hear about your loss. You know you have lots of friends here to help you in this difficult time. Stay strong, and cherish all the memories you have with your husband in your heart. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.


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Post by grandmaS » Sun Oct 15, 2006 6:52 pm

Sorry for your loss goosie, I have been married 34 years and know I would be lost without my hubby. Take support from those that give it and know that they truely care about you.

You did all you could as did the emt's and doctors, sometimes there just isn't anything that can be done. Seems like in the bad times we always blame ourselves, but remember its God's will not ours that will in the end make what happens happen.

Sending Angels to you and yours
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Post by ptmartin01 » Sun Oct 15, 2006 6:58 pm

Pat, my condolences. Went thru something similar with my mother a couple of years back and you learn how resilient you really are after time passes. Take care.
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Post by X Barbiqute X » Mon Oct 16, 2006 6:57 am


when god calls upon our loved ones,
to stay with him above,
we mortals can't help but question,
the certainty of his love

we think he wants to take them,
away from our sides, yet the reason for wanting them with him,
is he sees an angel in their eyes

i believe that god tries calling
just the aged to fly away'
but sometimes he can't help it,
to take the angel he finds that day

he knows we all need them'
so he only takes a few,
for he wants their faces in heaven,
to give the land a better view,

he knows that this will hurt us,
to see them fade away
into the darkest distance into a different day

believing they turn to angels,
some people just cannot try,
but he knows that the hardest thing to do, is to say goodbye

so when god takes our loved ones,
we that stay behind, should know that god had to take them,
because angels are hard to find.


A Friend

When trouble comes to the soul to try
You love the friend who just stands by
Perhaps there is nothing he can do
The thing is strictly up to you
For there are troubles all your own
And paths that the soul must tread alone
Times when love cannot smooth the road
Nor friendship lift the heavy load
But just to know you have a friend
Who will stand by until the end
Whose sympathy through all endures
Whose warm hand clasp is always yours
It helps someway to pull you through
Although there is nothing, he can do
And with fervent heart you cry
GOD bless the friend who just 'STANDS BY'

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Post by kiddo34 » Mon Oct 16, 2006 8:16 am


You are truly loved in Hardwood. I am so sorry to hear aobut your loss. If there is anything I can do, let me know.

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Post by Primal Instincts » Mon Oct 16, 2006 10:30 am

Just remember NanaG...They dont ever leave us.....My thought's and prayer's are with you and your family in your darkest hour NanaG....
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Post by Maiya » Mon Oct 16, 2006 2:13 pm

I'm so sorry to learn of this, Pat, and will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Best wishes and God bless you.


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Post by Jessie176 » Tue Oct 17, 2006 4:46 pm

Dear Pat, I am so truely sorry for your loss. Know that you are very loved! We are all here for you.

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Post by NanaGram » Thu Dec 14, 2006 6:47 pm

I can't tell you all what it's meant to me over the last two months - your IMs, your PMs, your emails and your never-ending love and e-hugs.

Tonight is the hardest, for some reason, and I reached out to a few of you. Thank you so much for the hugs.

Most think it' cause of the holidays that I feel so bad tonight. Not true, I hope, or Groundhogs Day is gonna be a bummer. Don't ask.

Again, my HW friends, ty for being there.

For all my friends who have lost a loved one, I can't pretend to know how you feel. But to be loved . . . and to KNOW that you were loved . . . is the most special feeling in the world. THAT love will last me forever.

I didn't lose that feeling when my hubby died, my HW friends wouldn't let me feel alone. For that, I am most grateful. I also have Real Life Friends who won't let me feel alone, either, they are so special.

If you love someone, tell them. Tell them everyday. I had twenty-seven years, four months and twenty-three days with Dan'l (I have the hours and minutes and seconds worked out too, but that would be ridiculous) and I wouldn't have missed it for the world.

Yes, it's a rough night for me, but it's part of the healing process, I'm told. I miss him so much, but I know that he's in the Heaven he believed in, and he now has all the answers to all his questions.

I truly can say, "He's in a better place." But I can't say it without crying. That will come in time, I'm sure.


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